By Natalie Irons, Associate Director, Instructional Coaching, UCLA Center X

I’m thinking a lot about how conflict looks, sounds and feels as I engage in my work. I’ve noticed that I feel more agitated or frustrated in some meetings, more than in others. And so, I have been doing a semi-action research project of my own to investigate what and where does conflict emerge and what do I do about it.

In reading about conflict, some say it comes about about from unmet expectations. I came across this quote about conflict and I had to chuckle out loud. Alan Greenspan has been quoted as saying, “I know you think you understand what you thought I said but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” Wow! This is how hard communicating about conflict can be!

In a recent chat, a dear colleague asked me, “What does conflict sound like to you?” While I know the response I feel in my body, I am still uncovering what the actual conflict is, in words, in non-verbals, in what is not said. I’d love to hear from you. What do you notice about conflict? What are some of the ways you respond to conflict?

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